Clearly the woman had problems and honestly, you're better off. She sounds like a horrible, selfish woman. You're not the only one to marry for the wrong reasons...hell, I married a guy to prove to myself I wasn't superficial and didn't think I was too pretty or smart for him. I was both and he was a hardcore nutcase and stalker...and those were his better qualities.

Her taking the after you asking her not to tells me all you need to know. Marriage never fixes a bad relationship. You're spot on, find someone who love you and treats you with respect.