For the cheap seats in the back, the writer is speaking about her relationship with her boyfriend. She's not asking to be objectified by random dudes. She's expressing a very real concern and need she has, that many women also have. She appreciates that her boyfriend respects her mind and shares her values, but somewhere in all that, the romance, for lack of a better word, the feeling of knowing she's desirable to him, has been lost.

Loved your story, by the way. Your honesty and vulnerability are refreshing.