I am so, so sorry you're going through this. Your mother deserves a dignified sendoff and you deserve to see her off in a civilized fashion.

Shame on the pastor! I was born and raised strict Baptist. I never bought it so I converted to Judiasm, now I'm nothing.

Well, not nothing...I beleive what I do, but when money gets in the way of people, sorry not sorry, I'm out. There was this guy, they called him Jesus...I don't recall him giving a good goddamn about money. In fact, if I read the book correctly (and I;ve read the Bible, the Tanak and the Quran, along with Bhuddist and Hindu texts)....paster is way out of line.

Sorry, but that's so disrespectful. My heart hurts for you and I don't even beleive in any of it now. What a jerk!