I can be civil with an ex, but unless children are involved, I can't for the life of me understand being friends with an ex. Sorry, but if I didn't like you enough to keep seeing you...just sayin'. First, it feels disrespectful of my current partner. I wouldn't want him hanging out with his ex. I get exes were those we once cared deeply about and there's likely care and concern there, but nope, not for me. Loved your story and you're absolutely spot on!