I raised my 3 boys on my own after leaving their abusive father. He was pretty much absent from their lives aside from popping in and out as and when it suited (it didn't suit often). He paid no support. I worked a variety of low wage jobs before being able to go back to school and become a lawyer.

I did the best I could and frankly, I did a damn good job. They're all functioning, well-adjusted men. That being said, I am not a man, and I do know they missed out on having a man around. They didn't have anyone to teach them how to be a man, how to do man things like shaving or whatever else men do (see, I don't know because I'm not a man). The best I could offer is the fact that I do have several of the more "male-typical" traits you listed. It is entirely possible to raise boys as a single mother, it's not idea, it's hard as hell, but it can be done, because what choice is there?

It's takes 2 to have a child, both parties should be taking responsibility. Unfortunately, adults are often running their own agendas rather than taking care of the kids. Enjoyed your article.