I think I see what you're trying to do here, and I think you're actually trying to give sincere advice. However, I AM a middle aged woman. I'm almost 51. I have not "lost my looks." I look and feel better than I did in my 20s. I'm routinely mistaken for being late 20s to mid 30s. And to go with it, I have the confidence and life experience I didn't have as a younger woman. I have plenty, I repeat, PLENTY of beauty, and so do other women my age. And as for "capital," what you mean is we don't have time for games and bullshit. Been there done that.

Attack? Let's chalk that up to a poor choice of words.

I can't speak for all women my age, but I can speak for myself. All this "show up as a friend and then pouce" shit won't get you anywhere. It goes back to the "capital" comment. What we desire and demand is respect and open honest communication, not games and subterfuge.

There is no formula to "get" a woman, middle aged or otherwise. People connect or they don't and game playing, and strategy just doesn't cut it.