I'm a woman and I apparently blindsided my ex husband. He didn't hear me when I said, "I'm not happy."

The lack of conflict, I get it. We never fought, not in 13 years. Why? Because I so didn't give a fuck. I was tired. I spent 12 years fighting with my previous ex. I thought I was the problem, so maybe I should just knuckle under and be the "good wife". Nope, wrong.

I was a 30 something woman with low self esteem that kinda loved the idea that someone would actually marry me. He was a 40 something guy just happy to have the hot chick for once.

I pretended to be someone. I suspect he did too. Yeah, that never works.