I'm glad you didn't get put into a nursing home. We had no choice but to put my mother in one, she was well over 85 and suffered from delusions and would wander off. The first home she was in was TERRIBLE!!!!!! I could go on for days about how awful it was. I pulled her out of there and we put her in another and thankfully, it was, from what I could see the last decent nursing home in the area.