I'm mixed race (Black father, white mother) and was adopted as an infant by a Black couple. My adopted mother did the same thing, she forced me to watch Roots as a child. I think I was about 7. Then she explained to me that I wasn't white and that regardless of how white I looked there were people who would never let me forget that I wasn't. She told me that pretty much every day of life.

It didn't make sense to me at the time. It does now. However, my point is, I think "the Black talk" is a very difficult one to have when it comes to a child that is mixed but white looking. The child often doesn't understand the nuances of race, colour and their place in the world as a mixed race child who very much looks like their white peers. It's a conversation that still has to happen. It's just one that needs a bit of tweaking in these instances.