I'm so sorry you had such a shitty father's day. I can't even imagine how hard it must be, being away from your kids. But I do applaud your maturity in regard to your daughter's name change. It's so refreshing to see someone not climb into the gutter with the other parent. Your ability to put M first and to avoid manipulation and game playing will pay dividends in the future. Kids are smart. They eventually figure things out.