It's not up to me to tell someone how to identify race. That said. I am biracial and I can trace my father's family to a specific SC rice plantation. On my mother's side, it's all white.

I am white presenting. I just am. I look like my mother, pale skin, blue eyes. I know what I look like. if you see me in public, unless you know to look for the hair and the body characteristics, I look whiter than actual people of European descent.

That said, the social construct of race is just that. For me, for Meghan. We aren't Black, that's true. There are times we just sail through, white as can be.

Until somebody knows. That's the thing with social and political constructs. Mixed race people are only as Black or white as society sees them. Sometimes, it's visible to the naked eye. Sometimes, it's not, all of a sudden a Black mother or father is discovered and your place in the world changes. I speak from experience in that regard. And forcing people to pick a side is not only counter-productive, but deeply damaging.

I was excluded from my white family. I was ridiculed by some of my Black family. But those were the younger ones. My elders embraced me.

I can't speak to what Meghan feels or identifies as, but for me, I'm proudly mixed race. I embrace both. I'm acutely aware of how I move about the world. I'm also aware of how that changes based on information. I do not an will not accept mullato as a term. I am not a mule. I am a beautiful, educated, intelligent 52 year old woman with a Black father and a white mother, people are just going to have to deal with it.