It's terrible, and I get where you're coming from, you've made a life in Germany and it is what it is.

No, he didn't, but he also didn't have to. It was pre-arranged. Back in my law days, I was well aware of her age and we made arrangements. The only problem was she died during Covid and given the travel restrictions at the time, I wasn't granted permission to travel back home in time to see her off.