No judgment. I walked away from my family too, or maybe they walked away from me. Not sure, but I do remember it was toxic AF. You have to do what's right for you. If your name on there and this living trust makes you feel uncomforatable or somehow beholden to those you don't wish to have such ties with, you have every right to refuse the gesture. It seems to me you've managed, even in your anxious state, to strike a very sensible balance between your need to be done and your childrens' birthright. Good luck. I hope now that you've come to a decision, you can get this stress out of the way and take care of you. :)