Of course it's not written in the spirit of love, I'm obviously ranting about something I find frustrating. And no, I don't hate men, I married one. Perhaps the men that I'm referring to that you're so quick to point out are "human and deserve to be treated as such" would receive a better response if they treat me, and other women, like humans and not objects to be consumed later. If wanting to go about my day feeling safe makes me narcissistic and entitled, so be it.