Oh, and regarding step fathers, here's one for you, that I should probably make into a story....my ex, you know the moron who thought I was a trophy....well, he thought feeding children was a bad idea.....as in, he bought a used fridge off off kijiji (a craigslist type thing), put it in the garage and suddenly cheese and milk started disappearing from the kitchen fridge. Yeah, he was hiding cheese because the kids "ate too much". 3 growing boys. We were making 6 figures, we could afford food. When I found out where the disappearing cheese (and milk) had been going, well.....let's just say I wasn't happy.