This!!! When I was still practicing law, the managing partner said this to me. I worked over 80-90 hours a week, I was the best performing associate. There were no complaints about my actual work. I used the off time I had to look fater my 3 kids and my mother who was ailing and had Lewy Body Dementia. But, you know, I didn't show up to get drunk on the boat for the 7th year in a row, or out for drinks on that Wednesday, so I was a bad, bad girl and not "one of them". This came up in an evaluation, and well, let's just say, I said my piece and soon took my ass to another firm.