Wow, I don't even know what to say (then, of course, I'll go on to say a lot). What an awful story. I'm glad you told the finance the truth. Now, however she proceeds with him is on her.

Personally, and this is just my opinion, your ex is the last person either of you need to be with. He's toxic to himself and anyone around him as he is. He has a lot of demons to get ahold of before he can be with anyone.

I don't think he was lying to you in those texts, strange as that sounds. That's not an endorsement of him as a partner, not even close. What I mean is, you and your life together and how things were, he loves that. And you are an extension of that, that time, when things were good, when there was love and laughter and a business. before he drank it all away. I think on some level, he beleives that if he can have you back, he can have that life back, that life that was successful that life that was happy. It will fix everything in his mind.

But alas, it's not that simple. He's an addict. Addicts lie, they lie to themselves most of all.

I don't know anything about this other woman. He obviously was gettitng something from her. Approval? Acceptance of his drinking? I don't know.

Hopefully they'll lock him up and dry him out. The last place he needs to be over the holidays is left to his own devices.