Yes, yes yes! 100 times yes! You can't change someone else, not a partner, not a spouse, not even your own damn kids. As far as relationships go, if you need to change them, they're not for you (learned that the hard way, more than once). As for children, well they aren't there to right your wrongs, so leave them be.

The only person you can change is you. Oh, and here's a fun kicker, when you do, people won't like it. Some will try to stop you. Some will go away. Stad firm and keep it moving. Damn there's an article in itself. Another brilliant quickie, Jimmy. :)